Having and keeping confidence hasn’t been easy for me throughout my 35 years of life. I go through spurts but at my age it is time for me to be consistent in my confidence and stop going through spurts. No one is perfect and I definitely am not however I strive to be daily. Perfection can be a rabbit hole if you get caught up so what I like to say is that I will be perfect at being human.
I realize that I will never be 100% perfect and at times I won’t have the best smile or thoughts or make the best decisions but I also realize that I am human and things just aren’t going to be all the way on point all of the time. But I am confident in KNOWING who I am. To build confidence you have to be able to look in the mirror and see you…really see you. Embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly of who you are and grow and evolve. Improve the areas that you aren’t pleased with. One thing I like to enforce to my clients is that no one should be able to come up to you and tell you about you without you being able to say “I know this already” (it shouldn’t come as a shock) and your reaction should be one of humbleness and/or ask them how they think you should improve in whatever area they are pointing out.
Build your confidence by believing in yourself and getting to know yourself. An exercise that I like to do is list at least 15 things that I like/love about myself and reflect on those things. I recently did a list and I have them listed below.
- My heart
- My smile
- My character
- My genuineness
- My body
- My creativeness
- My integrity
- My spirit
- My strong will
- My personality
- My listening ability and attentiveness
- My determination
- My morals and foundation
- My intelligence
- My adventurous nature
Doing this list hasn’t always been easy, I mean it starts off easy in the beginning because at first you are listing things that are on the surface like smile, teeth, and hair but when the surface runs out you have to dig a little deeper within to get to the real good stuff like your pure heart, your compassion, your spirit and so on. Digging for those attributes should make you ask questions before listing them. Well is my heart pure and what makes it pure, what is compassion and how often do I show it for it be apart of my list and so on with other areas of the list.
Confidence is built and like a lot of things in life it may take a while to build but it will take no time at all to break it down. So I am asking you to build your confidence. Ask yourself, “what do I love about me and what can I improve on?” and as you build … GUARD IT.
A prayer that I like to say is “God show me me as you see me, all of me and help me to grow continually”.
Just believe in you and believe that you are great no matter what!!!!
Take a minute and send me some things that you love about yourself and if you are in a place where you can’t think of anything dig deep the good is there within you. Hope to hear from you soon.
Zony