I used to get so offended when someone would call me selfish and when someone would say to me that I am confused and don’t know what I want.  Now the problem with offense is that it makes us start to question ourselves even when we know what is being said isn’t necessarily true.  During this pandemic I have had more than enough time to sit with myself and really get an understanding of who I am now and those that have been in my life and are still in my life.  One thing that I have been sure of for awhile now is who I am and what I want.  Although I may take an occassional detour I always come back to what I want and the foundation of who I am.

What I realized when people call me selfish is that is their way of saying “I don’t like your boundaries”.  They don’t want you live by your personal boundaries and enforce them with them either.  They don’t want you to do what is best for you but what they think is best for you.  I don’t want to compromise in my thinking and doing but I want you to compromise for me.  Even those that say that I am confused and I don’t know what I want in my life are basically saying the same thing.

My response is that I will walk boldly in my selfishness and what you see as confusion.  Just because people say it doesn’t make it true and it isn’t grounds for me to start changing things about myself to fit their perception of me and neither do you.  Those are the type of people that give themselves the exit before I have to.  I know what I want and I am not selfish.  I maybe spoiled but spoiled and selfish are not one in the same.  I give of myself often even sometimes to the inconveinence of myself.  Don’t get caught up in the trap of others.

Some tips that I have learned to not get caught up the thoughts of others are…

  1. Always remember who you are.
  2. Take time to journal your feelings about what they are saying.
  3. Ask yourself if this is productive or destructive to you.
  4. Remove them out of your life.
  5. Always ask God to show you the real you.  Be ready to for what He reveals.
  6. You know the famous line “Opinions are like buttholes and everyone has got one.”  They all don’t matter.

Don’t allow others to project their thoughts of you onto you especially if you know that what they are saying isn’t true.  Don’t give it any unneccessary energy.  Continue to grow and move how you need to move for the betterment of you.  

That’s all I got for you this week.  I hope that this nugget of information will help you along your journey in life.  

Please leave me a comment and let me know of any experiences that you have had in this area. Talk to you again soon.


Zony  🙂